“Give to yourself what you are seeking from others.” If we keep running after other people to validate us, to make us feel whole, to make us feel loved and appreciated. We will always remain empty. The only way to fill the hole in our hearts is through self-love. The KHUDI that Iqbal talked about. If you constantly self-judge harshly, you will be a judgmental person towards others. You will become harsh and intolerant. We all mistakes. We can acknowledge our mistakes and course-correct them. But kindness begins with self. We all mistakes. We can acknowledge our mistakes and course-correct them. But kindness begins with self. elf. e harsh and intolerant. always remain empty. The only way to fill the hole in our hearts is through self-love. The KHUDI that Iqbal talked about. and not lose their sanity. This video should NOT be taken as a support for abusive situations of any kind in any shape or form.