Past trauma can shape how we see ourselves, eroding our confidence and damaging relationships. The constant weight of emotional abuse, cultural pressures, or childhood wounds can carry over into adulthood, eroding self-esteem and holding us back from the life we deserve. It doesn’t have to be this way, and it shouldn’t. Freedom from these burdens is not only possible but within reach.

In this episode of The Jamali Love Show, host Eram Saeed welcomes Dr. Joe Rubino, a globally recognized expert in personal development and the founder of the Center for Personal Reinvention. With decades of experience guiding millions toward personal transformation, Dr. Rubino introduces his powerful Self-Esteem System, offering practical steps to heal old wounds, navigate the present with clarity, and create a future overflowing with love from your cup. From breaking free of toxic patterns to nurturing confident children, his insights are a roadmap to lasting change.

Walk away with tools to reclaim your worth and build a life of joy, connection, and empowerment. If you’ve ever felt trapped by self-doubt or longed for relationships that uplift and inspire, this episode will resonate deeply and guide you toward a life of confidence and fulfillment.

Building High Self-Esteem for Personal Transformation

Today’s episode of The Jamali Love Show welcomes a global audience with warmth, setting the stage for an inspiring conversation on overcoming emotional abuse and cultivating high self-esteem. Host Eram Saeed sits down with Dr. Joe Rubino, a world-renowned personal development expert and founder of the Center for Personal Reinvention, whose decades of work have empowered millions to reclaim their worth. 

Self-esteem shapes every aspect of life, from relationships to personal fulfillment, yet past trauma and cultural conditioning often leave deep scars. Negative self-talk, rooted in childhood wounds or societal pressures, can trap us in cycles of doubt and disconnection. With practical tools and heartfelt wisdom, this episode is beneficial for personal transformation. It offers a path to break free, rewrite your narrative, and build a life of confidence and purpose. Emotional resilience, fostered through intentional practices, becomes the key to unlocking your potential, with audience engagement tools like chat and Q&A creating a safe space for connection.

Understanding the Impact of Low Self-Esteem

Early in the episode, the discussion dives into why self-esteem falters. Childhood experiences, like verbal abuse or cultural messages deeming women inferior, plant seeds of unworthiness that persist into adulthood. Eram shares her story of enduring two abusive marriages, revealing how low self-esteem fueled a victim mindset until she learned to shift it. Dr. Rubino ties low self-esteem to global issues—addiction, violence, even wars—showing its profound ripple effects. Awareness of these roots sparks the first step toward personal transformation by challenging the inner critic that holds you back.

Rewriting Your Past with the Self-Esteem System

Dr. Rubino introduces a powerful exercise from his Self-Esteem System to heal past trauma. Listeners are guided to recall a specific moment of feeling disrespected, focusing on the facts—what was said or done? Next, they unpack the meaning assigned to it, release emotions like anger or sadness, and reframe the event to affirm their worth. For example, seeing someone’s harsh words as their own struggle, not your flaw, shifts the narrative. Eram credits this practice with ending her cycle of attracting abusers, proving its transformative impact. This tool empowers you to let go of pain and step into empowerment.

Strengthening Relationships Through Self-Worth

High self-esteem reshapes how you connect with others, and this segment explores its role in relationships. Low self-esteem often leads to tolerating abuse or engaging in harmful conflict patterns, like defensiveness or contempt, which strain bonds. Eram recounts a client’s struggle with insecurity, fixated on controlling her future partner’s attractions. Dr. Rubino advises seeking partners who act from commitment, not convenience, and emphasizes that self-dignity fosters kindness and empathy. Healthy self-worth sets boundaries and attracts mutual respect, creating relationships that flourish.

Overcoming Emotional Reactivity

Emotional reactivity—anger, sadness, fear, or anxiety—keeps negative cycles alive, but Dr. Rubino offers a solution. Keeping an “upset journal” helps track these moments and reframe them. When feeling ignored in a conversation, for instance, try active listening by asking, “Is there more you’d like to share?” instead of reacting. This defuses tension and builds trust. Letting go of the need to play the victim channels energy into constructive responses, fostering peace in interactions and within yourself.

Q&A: Learning to Give and Receive Love

The audience Q&A begins with a listener named Adam, tackles the challenge of accepting and giving love when raised in an unloving environment. Dr. Rubino encourages adopting love as a core quality to develop, suggesting small actions like:

• Complimenting others genuinely to foster connection.
• Smiling or performing kind gestures, like holding a door, to shift energy.
• Being vulnerable by sharing personal struggles, which opens authentic communication.

Eram adds that accepting God’s love is a starting point. Self-love fills your “cup” so you can overflow and give love to others who need it. This segment resonates deeply with listeners from South Asian cultures — many individuals from Asia experience dysfunctional family dynamics that can leave men and women unsure of what love feels like.

Raising Confident Children

The conversation turns to raising children with high self-esteem to break generational cycles. Dr. Rubino’s children’s course teaches 31 principles. One potent example is the “99-1 Rule,” which states that 99% of an upset reflects the upset person’s inner world, while the remaining 1% involves the person causing it. These lessons foster empathy, forgiveness, and gratitude in kids. Eram shares her choice to leave abusive marriages to protect her daughters from normalizing harm, urging parents to model confidence. Grandparents, teachers, and coaches can use these tools to nurture resilient, empowered children, ensuring a brighter future.

Tools for Transformation: Courses and Certification

Dr. Rubino offers two accessibly priced courses at thejamaliloveshow.com/joe25. The adult course, with 50 principles, guides you toward fulfillment in health, wealth, relationships, and purpose. The children’s course equips you to teach kids confidence and resilience. Both offer optional certification through the Center for Personal Reinvention, opening doors to a coaching career. Eram highlights the need for quality coaches in South Asian communities, making this an opportunity to transform lives while earning a living. These programs are both educational and offer a path to personal transformation. Action, Dr. Rubino stresses, breaks the cycle of stagnation.

Dr. Joe Rubino’s Journey

Dr. Joe Rubino’s path to becoming a global authority on self-esteem began not in a classroom or clinic, but in the humbling trenches of personal struggle. As a shy teenager grappling with insecurity, Joe faced the sting of feeling “less than” in a world that often equates worth with external success. This inner battle fueled a burning curiosity about why so many—himself included—felt trapped by self-doubt, unable to live fully. Determined to rewrite his story, he embarked on a decades-long quest to understand the roots of self-esteem and unlock the secrets to personal empowerment.

The journey wasn’t without hurdles. Early in his career as a dentist, Joe realized that professional success alone couldn’t fill the void left by low self-worth. He left dentistry behind, diving headfirst into personal development—a bold leap that drew skepticism from peers. Undeterred, he studied human behavior, trained with leading experts, and developed his groundbreaking Self-Esteem System. Along the way, he faced the challenge of translating complex emotional truths into practical tools accessible to all, from corporate leaders to parents raising the next generation.

Today, Dr. Rubino stands as a beacon of personal transformation, having empowered millions through his books, courses, and the Center for Personal Reinvention. His work, rooted in the belief that self-esteem drives every facet of life, has reshaped relationships, healed generational wounds, and even inspired global change by addressing societal issues like addiction and conflict. From a shy teen to a visionary coach, Joe’s story is a testament to the power of rewriting your narrative. His courses, including the Self-Esteem System for adults and children, offer a roadmap for anyone ready to break free from past pain and step into a life of confidence, connection, and purpose.

Access Dr. Rubino’s Self-Esteem Courses at a 95% discount here.

Expert Advice & Powerful Quotes

“People with high self esteem are actually going to be people with a lot of humility. They're going to be humble because they're authentic. They're not out there trying to prove anything to anyone.”

“Give up your right to be the victim. Give up your right to be in your mood and realize that a new interpretation is possible here — and maybe that interpretation is that the other person just doesn't see the world in a way that supports them.”

“If you look at all of the ills in the world, everything from school dropouts to poverty to drug and alcohol addiction to wars, violence — it's all sourced in low self esteem.”

“When you realize that 99% of an upset is about the person who's upset and 1% about the person who's supposedly pausing the upset, then you can give up your right to be upset.”

“We are all addicted to an emotional reaction to life, and the foremost common emotional reactions are anger, sadness, fear and anxiety, and so that's the glue that keeps this whole misinterpretation mechanism in place, and it's invisible for most of us”

Taking the Next Step Toward a Personal Transformation

This conversation with Dr. Joe Rubino has illuminated the path to healing past wounds and building unshakable self-esteem. If his insights or Eram’s story of overcoming abuse stirred something in you, here are ways to keep the momentum going:

1. Listen to the Full Episode – Revisit the entire discussion to dive deeper into Dr. Rubino’s Self-Esteem System, from the trauma-healing exercise to strategies for raising confident children.
2. Reflect on Your Worth – Pause and consider a moment when you felt less than enough. Try Dr. Rubino’s exercise: recall the facts, release the emotional weight, and reframe the memory to affirm your value. What new narrative can you create today?
3. Join the Conversation – Explore more soul-stirring episodes and reflections at Jamali.love and become part of a growing movement of faith-led self-discovery.

Your journey to personal transformation starts with one intentional step. Embrace your worth, act today, and watch your story transform.