When life throws unexpected challenges our way, that is an invitation to pause and reflect on the deeper patterns shaping our existence. Becoming self-aware is the key to unlocking true transformation—a process of recognizing the recurring cycles in our lives, whether in relationships, personal struggles, or self-doubt, and taking ownership to break free from them. This journey inward is not about blame but about reclaiming the power to rewrite your story with clarity, purpose, and divine connection.

In this episode of the Jamali Life Show, host Eram Saeed steps in solo due to the postponement of a planned interview with marital coach Mary Knight, who faced a personal loss. Eram seizes this moment to set the stage and talk about the profound impact of self-awareness and personal responsibility, sharing her own journey of healing and empowerment—from navigating abusive relationships and financial hardship to building a million-dollar business and creating the life-changing 30 Days to Transformation course. Through heartfelt storytelling, she reveals how taking radical responsibility for her life’s patterns led to breakthroughs, offering listeners a glimpse into the tools and mindset shifts that can spark their own transformation.

Be equipped with practical frameworks to rebuild from adversity, stories of raw resilience, and a roadmap to connect your inner world to divine reality. This episode is for women (and men) navigating emotional wounds, looking for healing beyond therapy, and seeking wholeness through self-awareness, faith, and self-worth. If you're ready to break cycles and create lasting transformation, listen closely to every word.

Self-Awareness as the Path to Transformation

The Jamali Life Show is dedicated to empowering individuals, particularly Muslim women, to break free from destructive cycles and reclaim their lives through self-awareness and personal responsibility. Typically, the show features expert guests to provide actionable insights, but due to a family emergency—marital coach Mary Knight’s mother-in-law’s passing—this episode pivoted to a solo session with host Eram Saeed. Eram has been running transformative telesummits since 2012, a journey sparked by her own challenging experiences, including an abusive marriage, a prolonged divorce, and financial hardship during the 2008 economic downturn. She shared a pivotal realization from reading Spiritual Divorce by Debbie Ford: she was the common denominator in her life’s recurring patterns.

The Power of Self-Development vs. the Pitfalls of the Law of Attraction

Harnessing Self-Development for Lasting Change

Eram’s journey into self-development began with tele summits in the early 2000s, where she absorbed wisdom from global thought leaders. This exposure helped her shift from a victim mindset to one of empowerment, inspiring her to launch her own tele summit in 2012. She emphasizes that self-development is about taking responsibility for your life’s trajectory, not blaming yourself, and using that awareness to create positive change. Her 30 Days to Transformation course embodies this, guiding participants to confront their inner patterns and build a life aligned with their purpose.

Why the Law of Attraction Falls Short

Eram critiques the Law of Attraction, popularized by The Secret, for its promise that focused thoughts can manifest desires. While she acknowledges its partial truth—focus amplifies outcomes—she warns that it disconnects people from God, fostering a false sense of self-reliance. This can lead to self-blame and depression when desires don’t materialize, as Eram experienced when she failed to manifest a desired car despite her efforts. She calls it a “shaitani agenda” for sidelining divine connection, advocating instead for a faith-based approach to personal growth, as taught in her course.

Eram, Against All Odds

From the ashes of bankruptcy and personal turmoil, Eram built a million-dollar tele summit business within a year of its 2012 launch, defying the 95% failure rate of such ventures. Her success stemmed from her commitment to self-development, including selling her jewelry to invest in courses that fueled her growth. Stepping away from her telesummit in 2024 to focus on the Jamali brand, Eram now dedicates herself to empowering Muslim women, helping them overcome trauma and societal constraints. Her story illustrates that transformation begins with internal change, not external circumstances, inspiring listeners to take bold steps toward their own goals.

The Role of Gratitude in Personal Growth

Gratitude is a cornerstone of Eram’s teachings, rooted in the Quranic principle that expressing thanks for blessings invites more. In the 30 Days to Transformation course, gratitude practices help participants shift their focus from lack to abundance, fostering self-awareness and clarity about their true desires. Testimonials from past students highlight its impact:

• Sadia: “I sold my last valuables… results from 30 days have been amazing. Alhamdulillah, just first 10 days.”
• Madiha: “I was a whole new person afterwards. It’s self-awareness and self-acceptance and accountability.”
• Sidra: “It’s worth selling your valuables, like your jewelry.”

These stories underscore how gratitude and structured self-work can lead to life-altering breakthroughs.

The Importance of Self-Investment

Eram passionately advocates for investing in oneself as the most reliable and rewarding investment. She shares how selling her jewelry—once a symbol of external validation—enabled her to fund courses that transformed her life, leading to financial independence and personal fulfillment. Unlike material possessions, self-investment builds unshakeable self-worth and resilience. Eram encourages listeners to prioritize their growth, even if it means sacrificing temporary comforts, as this commitment fuels lasting change.

Eram’s Vision for Empowering Muslim Women

Eram’s mission is to change the narrative around Muslim women’s rights, empowering them to lead and transform the world. Her 30 Days to Transformation course, divinely inspired after going viral in Pakistan, has helped countless women heal from trauma, including abusive relationships and childhood losses. She envisions a five-to-seven-year timeline to train future leaders, after which she hopes to pass the baton. By sharing her content and engaging with her platform, listeners can support this movement, amplifying messages of dignity, faith, and empowerment for Muslim women globally.

Addressing Personal Struggles Through Self-Awareness

Eram responds to audience questions with practical wisdom, addressing challenges like infertility, abusive marriages, and self-doubt. For infertility, she recommends Surah Rahman therapy, noting its miraculous results within her course. For those in toxic marriages or facing internal fears, know that happiness comes from changing oneself, not external circumstances, using the metaphor of wiping kajal from one’s face rather than the screen. The 30 Days to Transformation course helps participants confront these issues systematically, fostering clarity and confidence to make empowered decisions.

Encouraging Active Participation in Transformation

Eram urges listeners to engage actively with the Jamali Life Show by sharing opt-in links and joining live sessions for Q&A opportunities with experts. The VIP upgrade offers exclusive speaker interactions and replay access, incentivizing timely engagement. She welcomes men and women alike, noting that many men have benefited from the 30 Days to Transformation course. By participating and sharing, listeners become part of a community driving positive change, amplifying Eram’s mission to empower through faith and self-awareness.

Systematic Progression for Lasting Results

The 30 Days to Transformation course is structured to ensure progress through sequential modules, preventing participants from skipping ahead, which could disrupt their growth. Each module builds on the previous, requiring completion of homework and exercises to unlock the next. This systematic approach ensures deep, actionable learning, helping participants uncover new insights with each cycle, as students often repeat the course multiple times over six months to deepen their transformation.

Methodology Matters in Transformation

Eram stresses the importance of a structured methodology in self-transformation, critiquing books like Yasmin Mogahed’s for lacking actionable frameworks. The 30 Days to Transformation course forces participants to take action through targeted exercises, ensuring they don’t just consume information but apply it. This methodical approach, grounded in Eram’s expertise as a transformational coach, delivers results unmatched by other programs, as validated by her mentor Chris Atwood and countless student success stories.

Rewriting Your Story Through Self-Awareness

This episode, though unplanned, became a powerful exploration of self-awareness as the foundation for transformation. Eram apologizes for Mary Knight’s absence but promises future expert interviews, encouraging listeners to share the replay and opt-in links to access upcoming sessions. She emphasizes inclusivity, welcoming men and women to her course, which has transformed lives across genders. With love and blessings, Eram signs off with “Allah Hafiz,” inviting listeners to join her in breaking cycles of pain and building lives of purpose, resilience, and divine connection through the Jamali Life Show.

Eram Saeed’s Journey

Long before the world recognized the transformative power of gratitude, Eram Saeed was living its stark opposite. Burdened by financial struggles, legal battles, and single parenthood, she found herself on the brink of despair. Despite hitting multiple dead ends—from a series of lawsuits to crushing anxiety—Eram kept searching for a lifeline.

Her moment came when she discovered practicing gratitude. With only a phone alarm and a simple journal, Eram began to record and reflect on small blessings throughout her day. Within weeks, she experienced a dramatic shift: stress and worry receded, replaced by a newfound sense of hope. This inner transformation fueled change—from improved health and relationships to the launch of her teachings around the “Four T’s” (Tawheed, the Tashakkur, Taqwa, and Tavakkal).

Today, Eram stands as a testament to the idea that the path to lasting happiness and success begins inside. By teaching others to embrace gratitude and shift from perceived lack to abundance, she’s helped countless individuals break free from limiting beliefs and step into a meaningful life.

Expert Advice & Powerful Quotes

“Have you been running a pattern in your life? Do things keep repeating in your life that seem to be like a pattern? The players change, but the story pretty much remains the same.”

“So I call the Law of Attraction a shaitani agenda, the agenda of the devil, because it completely disconnects people from God and and it and it in the beginning, they might start manifesting some stuff so they feel powerful, and what they begin to then do is they don't feel like they need God in their life anymore.”

“Many of us are trained and accustomed into looking at life circumstances and saying, I gotta change these and then I'll be happy. But that's not how it works. Remember when I was talking about that? When I changed my life, when I realized that I'm the most common denominator and I have to take responsibility.”

“Muslim women will change the world, and I am here to help teach those women leaders how to do that. And there is no way I can do it alone. There's no way. And I am under no misconception that I'm supposed to do it alone. So I have to help identify and align with and partner with and teach all these amazing women who are going to be leaders”

“I decided to take responsibility for my life, which is very different from blaming yourself, right?”

Step Toward Self-Awareness and Transformation

This episode of the Jamali Life Show, led by Eram Saeed, has illuminated a powerful path to breaking destructive cycles through self-awareness and personal responsibility. If Eram’s journey from adversity to empowerment or her vision for Muslim women resonates with you, here are ways to keep the momentum going:

1. Listen to the Full Episode – Revisit Eram’s heartfelt discussion to dive deeper into her insights, from recognizing herself as the “common denominator” in life’s patterns to creating the transformative 30 Days to Transformation course. Reflect on her metaphor of wiping kajal from your face to spark internal change.
2. Reflect on Your Patterns – Pause and consider the recurring cycles in your life, inspired by Eram’s realization that taking responsibility, not blame, is the key to transformation. Journal about a pattern you’ve noticed—perhaps in relationships or self-doubt—and identify one small action to begin breaking it today.
3. Join the Conversation – Visit Jamali.love for more episodes fostering interfaith dialogue and self-discovery. Share your reflections or join a local interfaith group to continue building bridges.

Your journey toward self-awareness, healing, and empowerment starts with one intentional step. Embrace Eram’s wisdom, act today, and contribute to a world where Muslim women lead with purpose and resilience.