A truly magnetic personality begins with a pure heart, because we can be afflicted by things beyond the physical. These diseases manifest in the way we think and feel. When we seek constant validation from others, we weaken our sense of self. When we compare our lives to others, we feed insecurity and envy. And when we are preoccupied with how people see us, we lose peace within. These patterns create deep unrest in our inner world.
In this second episode of How to Create a Magnetic & Strong Personality, host Eram Saeed explains the timeless Islamic framework for inner transformation. She shares wisdom from the Quran, prophetic teachings, and psychological insight. Together, we reflect on three major diseases of the heart: love of the world, envy, and displeasure with divine decree. These conditions do not remain hidden. They show up as anxiety, arrogance, low self-esteem, and disconnection from God.
This episode offers spiritual tools and practical steps to help you clean your heart from these hidden diseases. You will learn how to develop inner peace, humility, and strength. These are qualities that naturally draw people to you. The goal is not to seek attention or validation, but to become someone whose presence radiates light, authenticity, and calm.
The heart often becomes attached to the world in ways that weaken the soul. Islamic tradition teaches that the world is like a bridge. It’s meant to be crossed, not built upon. Love of the dunya is not always negative, but it can become dangerous when it blinds us to our higher purpose. Our intentions matter. Loving wealth for the sake of helping others is praiseworthy, while loving possessions for greed or vanity corrupts the heart.
Prophet Muhammad ﷺ taught that the world itself should not be vilified. It is a means to know God and a place filled with His signs. What becomes blameworthy is clinging to the temporary aspects of life in ways that suppress spiritual yearnings. The world offers trials and opportunities, and how we respond determines whether it heals the heart or sickens it further.
At the same time, there are things in this life that are meant to be loved. The Quran, the Kaaba, family, and righteous companions. These are all forms of worldly love that uplift and guide. The difference lies in whether our love leads us closer to God or further away. With the right intention, even wealth can become a blessing when used to uplift others.
Another disease of the heart is the hunger for praise. We have all experienced this. At school, we might have longed for the teacher’s approval more than the joy of learning. At work, we might crave recognition from a manager or colleagues, even when the task itself should be fulfilling. Left unchecked, this hunger creates dependence on others for our worth.
In today’s culture, many live on validation from others. But seeking praise for what we have not done, or chasing approval at the cost of truth, leads us away from God. When we make the opinion of people our source of strength, we place them in a position that belongs only to Allah. The need for constant recognition can distort our intentions, making even good deeds about image rather than sincerity.
It is important to note the difference between appreciation and flattery. Honest gratitude strengthens relationships and builds humility. Flattery, however, hides selfish motives and feeds arrogance. By reflecting honestly, we can uncover whether our need for praise stems from insecurity or from a genuine desire to serve.
To free ourselves from the love of the dunya, scholars recommend practicing “death meditation.” Closing the eyes and reflecting on the grave helps us see the futility of chasing possessions or praise. No wealth, validation, or status will follow us there.
This practice reminds us that life is temporary; attachment to fleeting gains only leads to disappointment. Thinking about the grave creates perspective. It reminds us to spend our energy on what carries meaning beyond this world.
Life is fleeting and often deceptive. People’s opinions change overnight, and worldly attachments can enslave us. Recognizing the dunya as an illusion liberates us. The glitter of status, wealth, and beauty fades, but faith and good deeds remain. True freedom lies in releasing dependence on people and outcomes, and surrendering only to Allah.
Envy, or hasad, is among the most destructive diseases of the heart. It was envy that led Iblis to disobey Allah and refuse to bow to Adam. The Quran warns believers to seek refuge from envy, and the Prophet ﷺ said it consumes good deeds like fire consumes dry wood. This shows how deeply envy damages the soul.
Envy harms both the envied and the envier, but the one who carries envy is ultimately the most harmed. It poisons the heart, clouds judgment, and distances a person from peace and gratitude. Instead of focusing on one’s own blessings, the heart becomes consumed by what belongs to others. This leads to constant dissatisfaction and resentment.
Envy does not remain hidden. It shows up in harmful behaviors and spiritual loss. Its consequences include:
The cure for envy begins with resisting one’s whims and practicing taqwa, living with constant awareness of God. Praying for the person we envy, and even doing them good, softens the heart. Realizing that envy harms us more than anyone else is also powerful. The envier drinks poison, hoping another will be harmed, yet the bitterness stays within.
Another treatment is gratitude. By actively naming and appreciating one’s blessings, the grip of envy weakens. Remembering that every blessing is distributed by Allah according to His wisdom helps us shift from resentment to trust. When we turn envy into admiration and aspiration, it motivates us to improve without wishing harm on others.
Arrogance fuels envy by making us feel others are unworthy of blessings. It whispers that we deserve more, or that others have received what should have been ours. This mindset leads to hostility and rejection of divine wisdom.
Low self-esteem works in the opposite direction but creates the same disease. When we see others succeed, insecurity convinces us that their rise makes us smaller. Instead of being inspired, we are filled with resentment. The antidote to both extremes is humility and gratitude. Recognizing that Allah gives each person what is best for them, at the right time, allows us to be at peace.
Displeasure with Allah’s decree is another subtle yet serious disease. It often shows up in complaints like “Why me?” or resentment at life’s hardships. This mindset denies God’s wisdom and creates bitterness in the heart.
Every circumstance, whether blessing, trial, obedience, or disobedience, demands a response. Gratitude, patience, humility, or repentance are the proper responses. Learning to accept Allah’s will brings peace, while resisting it only multiplies suffering. The more we submit to His decree, the freer we become from anxiety and fear of the future.
The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ endured immense trials, from losing loved ones to facing persecution. Yet he never complained, except in supplication to Allah. His patience and trust in God remain the highest model of resilience.
He showed that strength is not the absence of pain but the ability to endure it with faith. His life teaches us that hardship can become a source of elevation when faced with sabr. By emulating his example, believers can cultivate strength, emotional intelligence, and a truly magnetic personality rooted in faith.
A magnetic personality is not built on charm or outward polish but on the state of the heart. In this second session, the focus is on purifying the heart and cultivating strength that radiates authenticity. A person who develops inner peace naturally attracts others. Their presence feels safe, genuine, and inspiring.
Learning to be content with divine decree is central to inner peace. Trials become opportunities for growth, and blessings become means of gratitude. Recognizing that Allah’s wisdom surpasses human understanding helps release anxiety and fear. This state of contentment allows a person to face life with calm and balance, no matter what comes their way.
Even acts of obedience can become corrupted by pride. When people begin to see themselves as better than others, their hearts harden. The danger is subtle because the outward act may look righteous, while inside the heart grows arrogant.
The cure is remembering that obedience itself is a gift from Allah, not a personal achievement. When we recognize this, we stay humble and compassionate. Instead of judging others, we become grateful for guidance and pray that others also find it.
The three keys to building a magnetic personality are gratitude for blessings, patience in hardship, and repentance after mistakes. Together, they create humility, resilience, and sincerity. These qualities naturally draw people closer, making the personality strong yet compassionate.
Practicing these responses in daily life shapes a heart that shines. Gratitude deepens joy, patience strengthens resolve, and repentance keeps the soul soft and humble. This balance is what creates a truly magnetic personality.
The diseases of the heart, love of the dunya, envy, and displeasure with divine decree, erode inner peace and magnetism. Left unchecked, they damage relationships, foster arrogance, and disconnect us from God. Awareness is the first step. Once we see these tendencies within ourselves, we can begin the work of purification.
But purification is not about perfection. It is about striving daily to realign the heart with sincerity, humility, and trust in Allah. Each effort, no matter how small, strengthens the soul and builds character. A truly magnetic personality shines not by demanding attention but by radiating humility, strength, and trust in Allah. The journey inward is the real path to becoming someone whose presence brings light to others and peace to themselves.
Long before the world recognized the transformative power of gratitude, Eram Saeed was living its stark opposite. Burdened by financial struggles, legal battles, and single parenthood, she found herself on the brink of despair. Despite hitting multiple dead ends—from a series of lawsuits to crushing anxiety—Eram kept searching for a lifeline.
Her moment came when she discovered practicing gratitude. With only a phone alarm and a simple journal, Eram began to record and reflect on small blessings throughout her day. Within weeks, she experienced a dramatic shift: stress and worry receded, replaced by a newfound sense of hope. This inner transformation fueled change—from improved health and relationships to the launch of her teachings around the “Four T’s” (Tawheed, the Tashakkur, Taqwa, and Tavakkal).
Today, Eram stands as a testament to the idea that the path to lasting happiness and success begins inside. By teaching others to embrace gratitude and shift from perceived lack to abundance, she’s helped countless individuals break free from limiting beliefs and step into a meaningful life.
“Love of this world is considered blameworthy, though this does not include wanting things of this world in order to be free from burdening others with one's needs. Nor does it include desiring provision from the world for the purpose of attaining the best of the hereafter.”
“If our intention is good, then that totally changes the picture. If it leads to a diseased heart, such as greediness, arrogance, then it is blameworthy. If it leads to spiritual elevation and healing of the heart, then it is praiseworthy.”
“When somebody is expressing their gratitude, you open up your heart and you show appreciation for what they are appreciating. Be humble, be down to earth. So, show some humility that I'm so glad.”
“To manifest envy is to manifest one of the characteristics of the most wretched creatures.”
“Pain is inevitable. Suffering is a choice. Pain is going to happen. Challenge is going to come if we go into denial of that, if we go into all this should not have happened. Oh, why me? Oh, why this? You will go into suffering. Suffering is a choice.”
A sound heart is the foundation of a magnetic personality. When the heart is trapped in ego, envy, or the need for validation, peace is lost. Eram Saeed explains that Islam teaches that the heart, not the mind, is the true seat of consciousness. The heart carries faith and shapes character. Letting go of unhealthy attachments purifies it. Practicing humility and trusting in God’s decree keeps the heart clear and strong.
Strength grows from a heart that is free of ego, envy, and arrogance. When the heart is purified, it becomes a place of clarity and peace. In that state, love and humility guide every action, and the personality reflects balance, faith, and inner strength.
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